Hell Hath No Fury . . .

So I was at Olive Garden the other day talking to my friend Cole when one of the newer waitresses who neither of us really know came up and interrupted our conversation:

Cole: I'm really excited about having kids someday.

Mark: Yeah, well kids are awesome though very challenging as well -

Waitress: (walks in and cuts me off) Yeah, so anyway, my EX boyfriend comes up to me and is like "I know you did it." "Did what?" "You know very well." "I have no idea what you're talking about." "Someone paintballed my car last night and I know you did it because you are the only one I know who is angry enough with me to do it." (The waitress here took a deep breath) "I love the idea that someone shot up your car with paintballs and I wish I had thought of it and then done it to you. I'd have enjoyed every moment. You deserve it, you ______!" "So did you do it?" "Did you see me do it?" "No?" "Well then, I guess I didn't do it!!!"

Mark: (still getting over the shock of having our conversation interrupted with this strange story) So . . . um . . . did you do it?

Waitress: Of course I did.

She then left to go see to her tables. Cole and I looked at each other. "Wow." Though I don't know this waitress very well, she comes across as calm, kind, and gentle. It's rather hard to imagine her opening up on her boyfriends car with a semi automatic paintball gun and cackling maniacally. Later on she came back to Cole and I:

Waitress: I'm not a psycho, you know. He deserved it.

Mark: Of course you're not. And we would never suggest anything contrary as that since it might cause you to get angry with us!

She laughed and then told us a little bit about their relationship. It seems that several times a week he would tell her he would do something with her and then "blow her off" by not showing up. Then he'd apologize and bring her flowers or something and she would forgive him. He also lied to her compulsively. One day he told her that he had a second job at McDonalds one day to explain one of his failed appearances. The next time she was at that particular McDonalds location, she asked if her boyfriend was in that day. They told her that he hadn't worked there for over two months. Needless to say, she finally broke up with him. Which then lead to her attack on his car.

My personal thoughts on the story: The guy acted like an incredible jerk/loser to her and her anger is not mostly at him, but at herself for putting up with him so long. Sometimes we are really angry with ourselves but since we don't want to hurt ourselves anymore, we take it out on others. I do this myself sometimes (usually taking out my frustration with my own poor decisions on my wife or children). I bet if you look honestly at your life, you do too. The trick is to acknowledge that you made some bad decisions and accept the consequences (and not take your own stupidity out on those you care about).



May Light increase!